For those entrusted with the role of best man, it’s a great honour. Despite the dreaded speech, you’re responsible for organising the biggest send-off in a man’s life, choosing the suits for the big day and guarding the rings with dear life. Here’s our guide to surviving wedding season as a best man.
A best man’s suit for a wedding must tick all the right boxes. The suit should be tailored but feel comfortable when you’re walking, standing, sitting and - should the necessity arise - running. Ensure it isn’t too tight on the thighs or the chest. You want to avoid the possibility of your jacket buttons popping open at any moment. Details are in the colour - navy, black and grey are the classic options but for the modern man, look to check suits and more daring colours. If the wedding is black tie or formal, you might even opt for a tuxedo or complete your look with a vest.
SHIRT AND TIE
Never underestimate the power of a white shirt for a wedding – it’s clean, crisp and classic. That doesn’t mean it has to be boring. Dress it up with a silk tie or bow tie, adding suit accessories like a tie bar or lapel pin to amp up your wedding game. What about fit? A slim cut in a cotton fabric is most flattering and a half inch of the shirt cuff should be on show below your jacket sleeve. Don’t forget to wear cufflinks.
It’s a wedding and that means you should wear a pair of dress shoes. Decide on a colour that reflects your personality and complements the suit. Oxford shoes in black or brown are timeless while burgundy shoes will hold their own on the dance floor. Just ensure they’re polished– read our guide on how to care for men’s shoes here. If you’ve pared back the suit accessories, add colourful socks. Otherwise, play it safe with black and navy.
BEST MAN TIPS
Now that the wedding suit has been chosen, it’s time to move on to the remaining duties of a best man: notably, the bucks, the rings and the speech. Here’s our advice on being a best man:
- Know your audience: leave the incriminating photography and risky humour behind. Deliver a speech that is short, from the heart and with a few fond jokes. If you wouldn’t want your grandmother to know it, neither does he.
- Stay sober: at least until the speech is over.
- Don’t lose or forget the rings: it’s your job to keep the rings safe at all times. Think Joey in Friends – ‘The One with the Worst Best Man Ever’ – need we say anymore.
- Be on time: unless you’re the bride, arriving late to the ceremony is a big no no. This is not a repeat of Four Weddings and a Funeral.
- Support the groom: it’s his big day and if the time arrives for reassurance and advice, you’re the groom’s rock.
- A bucks to remember: organise the bachelor party 3 months before the wedding. This gives everyone time to recover, forgive and forget and grow back their eyebrows.
- Greet and assist: be on hand to greet and help guests, groomsmen and the wedding party both in the lead up and on the big day.